#957 Quit thinking others don’t have moments of messiness

by Dean Dwyer on January 25, 2010 · View Comments

At times, it’s easy to think that everyone else BUT us has their shit together.  When you read books, attend seminars, or go to parties, you get bombarded with all the great things people are doing.  They present an aura of invincibility that often leaves us thinking that we are the only ones who are a complete mess on the inside.

Of course by mess, I don’t mean in all areas of our life.  It might be a relationship, a career choice or some self-defeating thought that creates our own personal messiness, but a mess exists nonetheless.

But you know what?  We all have shit we’re dealing with.  We all have baggage.  We all have a mess that needs cleaning up.

Sure some people do a better job than others at hiding that mess, but trust me, it’s still there.

I am a fan of Anthony Robbins.  I love his story and I have read a number of his books and even purchased his Personal Power  tapes.  (Side-note: Yup that’s right, I said tapes.  I am that generation that has experienced the 8-track tape, vinyl records, tape cassettes, CDs and now mp3s.)  And for all the great stuff that Tony teaches about personal power and relationships, it couldn’t help him save his first marriage, even though his tapes talked about how great and loving it was.

You see, we all have a mess that we are trying to clean up.  And you know what, when we clean that up, there will be another one and another and another one after that.

Our messiness is what makes us human.  It’s what makes us unique. It’s what powers us to overcome and succeed.

So the next time you start beating yourself up because it seems everyone else is so much more together than you, QUIT IT.  They’re not.  They have their mess they are working on cleaning up.  You just can’t see it.  But it’s there.  Trust me.

To an idea worth quitting,

Dean

ps…If you haven’t had a chance, check out my interview about The Power of Quitting on Career Buzz.  Click here to listen to the MP3.

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    Listened to the radio program twice - you have totally started the ball rolling for me. I'm in the middle of quitting many things...quitting getting bossed around; quitting mistaking my home for a charity; quitting a job that destroys me; quitting men who are bad for me (old story that one); quitting feeling bad about choosing myself first... one thing you oughta do, the Dwyer...and you do it at the start of your interview...is quit apologising for being you. I love what you're doing...keep spreading the word...you are doing me a world of good.
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  • That's pretty cool Sandra. Keep me posted on what happens and I will (keep spreading the word.)
  • I found you through Josh's group post today. His reply to you is obviously dead on. I like what you say. Thanks!
  • Thanks Julianne. It's great to have you on board.
  • Well, here I am pouring over my first QuitBit. I'm glad I found you. I've given a similar talk to some of my friends recently. Keep up the good work! I'll respond to your DM shortly. (Now that I know you're worth it -:) )
  • So am I. Anyone who will publicly say I am worth it is not only a courageous soul but clearly a very intelligent one as well. Thanks for coming on-board. :-)
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